Finding work after addiction

Sometimes life throws you dark times to get through.

I remember when I worked for The Salvation Army and was chatting to a homeless guy.

He lost his wife, couldn’t cope and turned to alcohol to get through it.

Within the space of a few months, he’d become an alcoholic, lost his job and family.

So, when Rufus Carter got in touch with his story about his own recovery, I knew it could help some of you.

This is Rufus’ article about getting a job after rehab.

For people new to recovery, it may take some time to find a new job.

Time to work

While waiting, you still have to make ends meet, but how can you do that?

It’s time to take one of the many contracting or temp jobs available.

The number of people who are working these short-term freelance jobs is growing. Side jobs have increased by 27 percent over standard payroll jobs, according to CNBC.

The good thing about finding temporary and contract work is that you can be flexible with your time, giving you time for job hunting and interviews.

 

Finding the Right Work

The first thing you need to do is decide what kind of work suits you. Answer the following questions to discover what you can do:

  • What sort of skills and expertise do you already have?
  • What talents and personality traits do you have that fit those?
  • Can you make money with this skill?

Here are some ideas for you to consider:

  • Pet sitter
  • Selling handmade items on Etsy
  • Teaching musical instrument lessons

Read these tips from Believe in a Budget on how to find the right opportunity for you.

Keep in mind that not every option has to be a job. For example, you could take a survey and earn money from it, try  affiliate marketing, or rent out a spare room through Airbnb. Here are some more ideas in this article from Side Hustle Nation.

Remember that whatever you try is a great opportunity to enhance your CV.

Living Frugally While Waiting for Work

It’s also helpful to use and manage your money wisely.

You’ll need to live frugally, cutting out every expense you can think of.

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You can haggle with certain companies, like your internet provider, to get monthly bills reduced. Learn how to do just that in this post from Five Cent Nickel.

You can – and should – use both coupons and rebate apps as much as possible for groceries and other items. Here are 40 more ways to save money on monthly expenses from The Simple Dollar.

Another way to save is by working from home. When creating a home office, make sure that you minimize distractions so you can stay productive.

Taking Care of Yourself

It’s important to remember this is a difficult season in your life, but it will pass.

Keep focused on your priorities, especially maintaining your commitment to sobriety.

It doesn’t cost anything to take care of yourself with these adjustments.

  • Get support with the right meetings and care groups, as well as making friends who have had success with sobriety.
  • Make a balanced diet part of your life. Eating healthily will support good physical and mental health on your journey. Learn how to create and maintain a balanced diet from Healthline.
  • Incorporate fitness into your daily life. It doesn’t have to be challenging – even a daily 20-minute walk can improve your health. Talk to your doctor about which exercises are best for you.
  • Take care of your mental health. See a counsellor or therapist, particularly if you suffer from mental health issues, such as depression. A dual diagnosis may be helpful for you.

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Getting in Shape to Return to Work

Nurturing yourself is not only important to keep up with your recovery. Your state of mind will impact upon your job interviews, so take good care of yourself!

Hopefully, your treatment program will have skills and employment coaching to help you get back to work.

However, please don’t leave your current program if they don’t offer that.

Instead, ask them where you can find these services, or if they can help. Read these 10 tips about navigating job interviews after addiction recovery.

  • Finding interim work while you get back on track will boost your confidence and keep you afloat. Investigate your options and take care of yourself in the meantime.
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Life lessons from my dad

I’ve just spent time with my lovely dad, celebrating his 70th.
He’s a kind, creative soul and I’ve been thinking about what he’s taught me over the years.

So, I thought I’d put together a list of 7 key things I’ve learned from him, in the hope it helps you too.

  • Find a partner who loves you and is the Yin to your Yang. My parents complement each other and bring out the best in each other. They share some interests they enjoy together, but have fun pursuing their own hobbies too. Even after everything they’ve been through, they still hold hands and let each other know how much they mean to one another.
  • Always expect the unexpected. This used to make me a bit paranoid, since my dad and I share a love of watching horror films. Nowadays, I use this motto to always expect miracles. Life is full of miracles, but we don’t always see them. Remember that even when ‘bad things’ happen, we don’t know what it’ll lead to. The pieces of the jigsaw will fit together in time and you may realise that the ‘bad things’ helped you grow more, learn more and discover something wonderful.
  • Be creative. My dad was a fab art teacher and still teaches art in the community. Art is a great tool to help you feel better and switch off from the craziness this world can be. Make time to do a hobby you love and know that it’s not selfish, it’s a case of self care. I believe that creative thinking is what’s needed to thrive in this world.
  • Follow your passion. This follows on from my last point. My dad still gets messages from former students telling him how he helped them, or that something he said still sticks. If you follow your passion, you can really help others. Life isn’t meant to be rubbish, where you’re stuck in a job you hate. Use your own gifts and talents to earn an income and see what difference you can make to the world.
  • Don’t let obstacles stop you. My dad is disabled and has been in pain for most of his life. Yes, he can’t walk long distances, he can’t swim and he can’t run. But he walked me down the aisle, he’s travelled and he’s overcome his own obstacles to live a life that’s fulfilling. Focus on what you CAN do. Let go of what you can’t.
  • Look after those who love you and your neighbours, because you reap what you sow. My parents will do anything for anyone. They should probably say ‘no’ more than they do, but they are always willing to help others. Over the years I have seen for myself just how connected we all are. If you see someone in trouble, help them. If you can offer a neighbour a lift somewhere, do it. Show kindness to others and it’ll come back to you tenfold.
  • Do your best. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, but if you can do your best in any given moment, that’s good enough. You don’t need to compare yourself to others. See your own worth and honour it. There’s only one of you.
I’d love to hear which one of these lessons resonated with you.
Jaelithe
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If you’d like some help to see your worth, my series of fun books can help. They’re made up of my own key life lessons and life coaching exercises. I’ve got one for kids, teenagers and women. 
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Ain’t nobody loves you better!

Let’s get honest with each other.

I was chatting with a lovely friend today about bras.

Confession time – most of my bras are grubby and no longer white, or they’re the wrong size.

I wore my ‘best bra’ to a party recently and my husband commented on how it squashed my boobs and made them look a funny shape. Then the realisation hit me, my best bra was in fact 13 years old – it was what I wore to my wedding when I was 27.

Since then, I’ve been lots of different shapes and sizes and I’ve had three kids in the space of three and a half years.

Time to get a new best bra I think. Ha ha.

I remember in the run up to my wedding, I really wanted to lose weight because I thought I was a bit too big. Naturally, I’ve always been a size 10-12. I’ve always had big hips, curves and big boobs. When I put on weight it goes to my hips and tummy.

My body is OK for me and I’ve come to a place of accepting it.

It’s been an interesting journey. 

Yes, I still don’t like trying on clothes in a changing room, with those harsh lights and unflattering mirrors. I still don’t feel comfortable wearing shorts.

But, I’ve come to accept that I’m the right size for me.

I exercise each day because it makes me feel good. No longer pushing and go for the ‘no pain, no gain’ aspect which led to me damaging my knees.

My body will change in shape and size and that’s OK. I focus on what each part of my body does for me, treating myself with love. For example, my arms being strong to cuddle my kids, my legs enable me to enjoy walks and beautiful scenery.

I do yoga to show my body some love.

So, here are three things you can do to love and accept your body:

  1. Go through your wardrobe and hold in your hand each item of clothing. If it makes you feel good, keep it. If it makes you feel conscious about something, thank it for the time you had together and sell it, or give it away. There’s no point keeping something to aim towards fitting into it. That’s putting pressure on yourself and holding you to the size you were in the past. If you can accept and love your size today, you’ll be guided to do what you need to, in order to accept and love your size tomorrow. I had a bag full of clothes I kept to fit into after having my children. It had glittery tops in that I wore as a teenager, but I wasn’t that person anymore. It was time to let them go, which was very empowering.
  2. Take time each day to pamper a part of your body. I have a fab body brush and use it for five minutes a day, after my shower. When I’m doing it, I appreciate my body instead of judging it. So, I could thank my arms for what they’ve done, or just acknowledge that my arms are nice. Other times, I paint my nails. Just do something that helps you appreciate your body.
  3. Eat foods that help you feel good. Now, this isn’t an excuse to scoff some chocolate. if you want a ‘cheat’ make sure it’s the best possible quality cheat there is. I love dark chocolate now – I never used to, but it feels really luxurious for me. Food is energy. Start to listen to your body and it will tell you what it needs. Don’t calorie count, don’t punish or starve your body. I only eat when I’m hungry, instead of going for set mealtimes, although I always eat breakfast. My food is a rainbow colour of foods – so, I make sure I get a good mix of fruit and veg each week. I eat slowly and mindfully, giving myself a smaller portion than I think I need, but knowing I can have more if needed. When I feel like I want to lose weight, I eat either carbs with veg, or fats with vegs. That’s because carbs and fats both give lots of energy. If you have an excess, your body stores it as fat. When I reach for the crisps, or chocolate, I eat them without guilt. I trust that my body knows how to handle it. For more advice on nutrition, read this.

If you feel like you need some more help with accepting and loving your body, then I’ll be covering it as part of my new ‘You Can Achieve Whatever You Put Your Mind To’ group coaching program.

You’ll learn about nutrition, exercise and self care.

We’ll also look at mindset, your confidence, your self belief and your unique gifts, so that you can feel good about who you are.

You work with me for two months and other like-minded people.

It’s just £27.90 a month for ten months as an affordable payment plan, or you can pay in full now at £279. Or you can do the self-study version in your own time.

Jaelithe

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You are good enough

If there’s one thing I’d like you to take away from this post it’s this: YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH.

I started dancing at the age of 3, but gave it up for my A levels, because I didn’t feel good enough.

I stayed in a rubbish relationship for far too long, because I felt like I wasn’t good enough.

I gave up my radio show because I felt like I wasn’t good enough.

My body’s shape and size – not good enough, my qualifications – not good enough and me as a mum – yep, not good enough.

And so on, and so on.

Then, I realised how miserable this belief was making me.

How much it was holding me back and how much I’d suffered from it.

I studied what I could about confidence, self worth and self belief.

I trained to be a Life Coach, Fitness Coach and Nutritional Advisor. I then looked at the spiritual world to take on the tools that helped me and my clients feel good.

So, if you’re feeling like you’re not good enough, it’s time to stop this.

Grab a pen and paper right now and write down ten things you like about yourself. Then write down ten reasons it’s good to be you. And finally, ten things you’ve done that you’re proud of.

Keep this paper close by. Look at it whenever you need a pick-me-up and a reminder how wonderful you are.

You have the power to write your own story and you’re in control of how you feel, so let’s start helping you feel good – just as you are.

If you think you need some extra help with this, then I’d love you to join me on my brand new group coaching program ‘You Can Achieve Whatever You Put Your Mind To.’

  • It’s ideal for mums who don’t feel good enough – you’re anxious and low in confidence and your kids are acting the same. You can be part of this group together – build your confidence and get closer to each other. Kids go FREE.
  • If you haven’t yet got the right job or partner for you, this will help. You’ll get the self belief and self worth needed to attract the great things you deserve.
  • And, if you’re a mum whose kids have flown the nest and you’re not sure what to do now because you’ve put others’ needs before yours for that long – this is for you. Let’s uncover your desires and help you accept how amazing you are.

Let’s work on your mindset, your beliefs, your gifts, your body image and your self worth.

Self confidence and self belief

Achieve whatever you put your mind to

Let’s give you the confidence and self belief that you deserve.

There’s a self study version of the course here. It’s all aimed at you helping you feel amazing about who you are and what you can achieve.

YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH.

Jaelithe

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